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From: "Forthright Magazine" <forthrightmag@...>
Date: Wed, 13 Jun 2007 19:31:47 -0300
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Straight to the Cross



COLUMN: REALITY CHECK

Father's Day
by Stan Mitchell

It was the peppery Erma Bombeck who once said of 
her father, "I never knew what to do with the 
daddy doll, so I had him say, 'I'm going off to 
work now'; and I put him under the bed." 

One of the most precious things a father can give 
his child is a solid work ethic. It is vital that 
a child see his father work hard, honestly, and to 
take pride in what he does. There is nothing 
sadder than a child whose father is a deadbeat, a 
bum, or even worse, dishonest. A child learns 
responsibility and integrity from such a role 
model. 

But sometimes dads take this too far. They become 
consumed with their work, and become unavailable 
to their children, and studies have shown that it 
is vital for both sons and daughters to develop 
this relationship with their fathers. A boy learns 
how to be a man from his father. This goes far 
beyond the realm of learning how to throw curve 
balls and attach a lure to a line ... it has to do 
with the son's view of ethics and integrity, and 
especially his view of the spiritual.  

A girl learns about femininity by using her father 
as a guideline for what is opposite. If her 
relationship with her father is distant or 
strained, the studies say, her marital 
relationship later in life will be impaired and 
dysfunctional. It's hard to bond with a moving 
target. 

The Bible speaks frequently and eloquently about 
the need for fathers to pass their godly life on 
to their children. 

"I will open my mouth in parables, I will utter 
things, things from of old - what we have heard 
and known, what our fathers have told us. We will 
not hide them from our children; we will tell the 
next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the 
Lord, his power and wonders that he has done" 
(Psalms 78:2-4). 

Someone has observed that in state penitentiaries 
prisoners frequently request "Happy Mother's 
Day" cards. They almost never ask for "Happy 
Father's day" cards. I wonder why that would 
be?

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Read also these archived articles about fathers:

Encouraging Our Son to Be ...
http://www.forthright.net/heavenly_connections/encouraging_our_son_to_be.html

Intimacy and Fathers
http://www.forthright.net/final_phase/intimacy_and_fathers.html

Why Is My Little Johnny Like That?
http://www.forthright.net/handson_faith/why_is_my_little_johnny_like_t.html

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