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From: Forthright Magazine <forthrightmag@...>
Date: Thu, 20 Mar 2008 09:29:40 -0500
Forthright Magazine
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Straight to the Cross


COLUMN: Fidelity

The Cup of Love
by Mike Benson

"Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let
each man have his own wife, and let each woman
have her own husband. ...Do not deprive one
another except with consent for a time, that you
may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and
come together again so that Satan does not tempt
you because of your lack of self-control" (1
Corinthians 7:2,5).

To prevent fornication (Greek -- porneia,
connected with our word "pornography" and refers
to illicit sexual activity), the inspired apostle
said each man is to have his own wife and each
woman her own husband. His point -- times of
physical intimacy are not to be abused by unlawful
sexual contact.

Despite the clear injunction of Scripture,
researcher Anthony Thompson says that extramarital
affairs have reached epidemic proportion in our
modern society. He estimates that between 50 and
60 percent of American husbands and 45 to 55
percent of wives become extramaritally involved by
the age of forty (Michael P. Nichols, "Loss of
Innocence," The Power of the Family, p. 312). To
borrow from song and Scripture, more than half of
all married partners are "drinking" in the wrong
place. (Recently disgraced New York governor Eliot
Spitzer is but another example of the problem).
They're quenching their thirst (i.e., desire) at
the wrong well. Ironically, the Almighty
specifically designated only ONE location for
drinking -- the marriage bed (cf. Hebrews 13:4; 1
Corinthians 6:18; Matthew 19:3-9).

Something happens when a pretty girl
Smiles at a married man.
It'll take him back for a moment;
Then he'll wonder just where he stands.
And if his cup of love is empty 'cause he can't drink at home,
When another woman offers her drink
Temptation comes on strong.

Now a woman can see when there's lust in the eyes
Of a man who is looking her way.
And even though she's married there's something exciting
In the kind words a stranger might say.
And if her cup of love is empty 'cause she can't drink at home,
When another man offers his drink
Temptation comes on strong.

You gotta keep his cup filled up with love
And don't ever let it run dry.
Keep her drinking at home and when she's out alone
It'll help her let temptation go on by
("Cup of Love," lyrics by Steve and Annie Chapman).

The wise man counseled, "Be faithful to your own
wife, just as you drink water from your own well.
Don't pour your water in the streets; don't give
your love to just any woman. These things are
yours alone and shouldn't be shared with
strangers. Be happy with the wife you married when
you were young. She gives you joy, as your
fountain gives you water. She is as lovely and
graceful as a deer. Let her love always make you
happy; let her love always hold you captive"
(Proverbs 5:15-19 NCV). The New King James version
concludes the same passage by saying, "...Rejoice
with the wife of your youth...and always be
enraptured (intoxicated -- KJV) with her love."

Yes, married couples can enjoy the fountain of
refreshment (1 Corinthians 7:3,4), but only at
home. Drink and get drunk -- at home.

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