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From: "Forthright Magazine" <forthrightmag@...>
Date: Thu, 24 Apr 2008 17:17:21 -0300
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Straight to the Cross

The editor has a major editorial on BNc: "Which Way
the Brotherhood?" http://brotherhoodnews.com/


COLUMN: REALITY CHECK

Are You Sure?
  by Stan Mitchell

It's amazing how the things people say do not always
match up with reality. Consider the person who begins a
statement with the words, "I may be wrong, but ..."

Usually he really means, "There's no way that I could
be wrong!"

Consider the person who says, "I hate to say I told you
so."

Of course he's enjoying it immensely!

And what about the one who says, "I'm sorry if I have
done anything to upset you."

What he really means is, "You're so hypersensitive.
This shouldn't have upset you!"

There are two things which young people find hard to do
in sports; winning and losing. It's hard to lose
gracefully, and it's hard to win graciously. It is also
hard in a family - whether it be a church family or a
physical one - to win and lose. It's just so hard to
hide that gleam of triumph when you were right after
all, the satisfied smirk when your dire prediction of
"disaster" came true.

As if you're glad to see God's people hurt. That is
sad!

Carl Mitchell used to repeat a line that makes a lot of
sense: "If you're wrong, admit it," he would declare,
"and if you're right, shut up!"

Paul said it this way: "Let your gentleness be evident
to all" (Philippians 4:5); and elsewhere, he said, "Do
not be overcome with evil, but overcome evil with good"
(Romans 12:21).

Being "right" does not justify acting unkindly towards
others. You can differ with another without attempting
to destroy him. The question I always ask myself when
speaking to another is this: Have I equipped him,
enabled him, to serve God and God's people better?

To quote the apostle again, "Everything should be done
for edification" (I Corinthians 14:26).  

Why should this be? Simply put, because we always view
others as being more important than ourselves
(Philippians 2:1-4).

Don't we?
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